There’s a difference between constructive criticism and condescending criticism. People who truly love you WILL point out your flaws, but they will also offer guidance and wisdom on how to overcome those flaws. If there are people in your life that can recall every mistake you’ve made over the past 6 months and judge you like it’s their part-time job, but can’t back it up with tough love and encouraging wisdom for your situations, then it’s time to seriously evaluate their motives. Are they really trying to help you or are they trying to hurt you and disguise it as “helpful feedback”? True constructive criticism will give you a reality check and may hurt your feelings but it will always come from that person’s heart. What they tell you may initially knock you down, but true friends will make sure they are still building you up in the process. If what you’re constantly hearing is tearing you down and offering nothing else, you have to stop and ask yourself if they really have your back or if they’re just trying to stab you in it?